And I realized when I got older that when I was in a tense
or uncomfortable situation, I’d take my glasses off. The instant blur created a
sense of having a barrier which always eased my discomfort. It didn’t bother me
that I couldn’t exactly see everyone; I’d just look toward them and be able to
maintain eye contact without feeling uncomfortable.
After I had Lasik surgery, my nearsightedness was gone, but
I chose not to correct for the eventual need for reading glasses. I figured I
would just wear them (and I do). But now when things get tense or I’m tired of
making eye contact, I just look through
my reading glasses instead of over them. Everything is blurry, just the way I’m
used to.
So far this works because my prescription is very mild. I
need them but I don’t (yet) look like Mr. Magoo. Plus my frames look more like
trendy frames, not reading glasses. We’ll see what happens when fashion changes
or my eyes get worse.
What weird coping strategies do you have?
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Weird coping strategy #1: when I'm angry, I eat. It puts a literal barrier between me and the rest of the world--then my problem is being that fat chick, not that stupid failure or that out-of-control angry bitch.
in meetings - i tend to cover my mouth. someone pointed that out to me that they always knew when i was thinking/pulling away because of that. good thing i use it for both;)
I've had glasses since I was 6 or 7, and got contacts in high school, but realized I felt uncomfortable without the barrier of glasses between me and the world, so I went back to glasses. My daughter M is near-sighted, but doesn't like to wear her glasses except when she needs to see. Like you, she likes the fuzziness.
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