Similarly some women friends of mine and I were discussing why it is that women don’t give each other a glimpse of what lies ahead in terms of aging or menopause. We don’t normalize these things for each other. Sure, we might tell horror stories but we don’t do much in the way of validating or offering comfort. It’s very helpful to me to talk with my women friends about what getting older feels like and what’s worked or not worked for them in managing these kinds of changes.
Today I’m wondering if I’m finally hitting menopause. I have no older female relatives to ask since either they’ve already died or had surgical intervention and never went through it. I’ve read the symptoms and can really only check off one: insomnia. Oh and night sweats, but see here’s the thing. I’ve had those since I got pregnant at age 20 with my first child who is now 34. So that’s not exactly a reliable indicator for me.
But the insomnia has gotten bad, really bad. So if you’re reading this and you’re a woman, tell me about your experience. I really want to know. Help me make sense of being the age I am with no other symptoms except that I cannot sleep. I’m not looking for advice* or horror stories. Just normalize this for me.
*Believe me, I've read up on this and tried pretty much everything: the melatonin, the sleepy time tea and other over the counter remedies and either they give me freaky restless nightmares and no more sleep or they flat don’t do anything at all. I already work out a fair amount, so I’m not sure I can do more there. I get offline an hour before bed etc etc etc.